Have you ever noticed - perhaps on social networking sites, on television, in films, or perhaps you may have had personal experience - that people, especially young girls, call each other "slut" or "hoe" or "whore" or something extremely degrading and disrespectful, even in a joking manner to their friends, and then shrug the whole thing off like it was nothing?
I get extremely annoyed whenever I see it happening.
The whole virgin/whore dichotomy perpetuates the misconception that females are the ones to blame for rape or any other kind of sexual harassment/abuse, instead of assigning the blame on the one who actually carried out the harassment/abuse. It works the other way around, too, like when you call a guy a "pussy" or a "fag" or overtly reference genital parts for the sake of stupid jokes. It's not funny. It's offensive, disrespectful, and immature.
So if you've done something like this in the past, please get over your giggle-fits over mindless sex jokes and have some self-respect for yourself and your friends. Grow up and think before you blurt things out, lest people get the impression (even on Facebook) that you're an insufferable airhead who spews sexist slurs against others.
/endrant
I hear you! Granted, I deactivated my Facebook (until the end of the semester) but I know exactly how you feel. As much as we would like to believe that the words "slut" and "hoe" don't have their intended meaning by adding "LOL" at the end, that's generally not the case. Why do we have to do slut-shaming in order to prove a point that might not have anything to do with their promiscuity? I feel the same way about the word "bitch." Why is that necessary? Why not call the person "irrational" or "insensitive" tell them they are "overreacting?"The worst part is that women are generally the ones doing this to each other.
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